TWINSies!  Dawn Davenport gives us lots to think about when dreaming of parenting twins through adoption.

I received an email the other day asking about adopting “twins”. The would-be adoptive mom didn’t really care if the kids were actual twins, she was perfectly happy to create virtual twins through adoption.

I’ve always been fascinated by twins…wished I were a twin, always had twin baby dolls as a kid. We are thinking about adoption and want to adopt twins. Waiting for actual twins to adopt could take a while, so we have decided to adopt two kids the same age that need a home. I think it will be easier having kids the same age and they will have that twin bond. Twins are so cool. How do we adopt them?

Fascination with Twins

Our society is fascinated by twins. I get it. When I was a kid Hasbro came out with quintuplet dolls, and I begged for them every Christmas and birthday for years. I mean really, who doesn’t find pictures of two babies dressed in identical adorable outfits irresistible?

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News from Armenia: Three families adopting from Hopscotch

News from Armenia: Three families adopting from Hopscotch Adoptions’ Waiting Child Program received their Article 16 Packages this week!  Hoping for all the children to come home soon in the coming months.


News from Bulgaria

News from Bulgaria: Wishing our Hopscotch family a safe and successful registration trip.  Congrats!!


Reconnecting Siblings Separated by Foster Care System


By Rheana Murray

34f2d313864b256e2555ef169be217eb Brothers and sisters torn apart by foster care or adoption get to see each other for one glorious week every year, at a summer camp that aims to reconnect separated siblings.

For one counselor, the reunion was so touching she decided to take three campers home – permanently, so they would never be separated again.

Tammy Gerber, a realtor in Las Vegas, told ABC News she had no idea what she was getting herself into when she signed up to be a volunteer at Camp To Belong for a week in 2009, but had no doubts about starting a family when she met three inseparable siblings, two boys and one girl, who all lived in different foster care homes at the time.

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The Dave Ramsey Edition – Affording Adoption

91a63c639669bb27304cfa00182ee578 Someone posted yesterday on the Creating a Family Facebook Support Group that they were just starting the adoption process and felt overwhelmed and defeated by the cost of adoption. We received a question for yesterday’s show from a couple that had spent all their savings on a failed IVF cycle and were now wondering how to afford another round. Yeah, no two ways about it, both adoption and infertility are expensive.

Adoptions can cost upwards of $30,000 and one IVF cycle can cost $15,000+, and most people don’t have that amount of cash sitting unused in a saving account. How in the world do people afford to adopt or pay for IVF? I hate to be a Debbie Downer, but one way is by old fashioned saving.

It May Not Be Flashy, But It Works

Saving money just sounds so darn boring, doesn’t it. It has no pizazz, but it does work. I have been a big fan of Dave Ramsey’s financial management approach for a long time. He lays out the how’s and why’s of creating a sound money plan for your family in such a direct and wise way.  You absolutely should listen to my interview with Chris Hogan, with Dave’s group, if you want to save money for any important goal (adoption, fertility treatment, a house, etc.), or if you want to get your spending under control. (Plus, Chris has a really great, and sexy, radio voice.)

Get On The Same Page

Chris gave lots of good advice on the show yesterday on getting control of your finances and starting to save money, but one of the things that resonated the most with me was his insistence that both husband and wife needed to be on the same page. Both partners need to agree on the goal and on the method for achieving it. He also suggested that both partners identify the “cost” of achieving this goal, as in lack of sleep, reduced time for vegging out, picking up the slack around the house, etc. He is so right about that!

There is no magic bullet for amassing $15-30,000+, but Chris gave lots of specific ideas for how to do it. Another good resource is Adopting Without Debt by Julie Gumm. It could just as easily have been titled “Fertility Treatment Without Debt” since the advice is almost equally relevant. We interviewed her on another Creating a Family show.

How did you pay for your fertility treatment or adoption?

P.S. It should be noted that foster care adoption cost almost nothing, and is a great way to create a family.

Moving Armenia

Thanks Haro Setian!


Moving Yerevan is an emotive response to the meeting of 47 dancers and the metropolis.

Too intuitive and almost impossible to clarify in formal terms, Moving Yerevan can be loosely described as playful filmmaking meets the hidden language of dance.

Yerevan is one of the world’s oldest continuously inhabited cities. The history of it’s people simply measured in millennia.

I encourage all to take a brief look at Armenian history before watching.

Filmed over 3 days and 3 nights against everyday life. The 7-minute film presents the capital of Armenia moving as one. I was lucky to have 47 of their best meet me in this time.

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When UNICEF ‘Kool-Aid’ is Served at Your Next Dinner Party

We Love Katie Jay!


stork-baby-girl-thumb-200x149 Assisted reproductive technology is a multi-billion dollar industry. But no one ever questions the value or proposes that doctors start doing IVF for free. Sometimes people complain that insurance companies should cover the costs, but no one argues that the reproductive technology industry should not be allowed to profit off their work.

Why? Let’s imagine that starting tomorrow, doctors and everyone involved in the reproductive technology industry were no longer allowed to profit from their work. Not a single dime could be made. What would happen?

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Point of View…. Well Done

Man With Dwarfism Wears Hidden Camera to Show a Day From His Point of View


By Zain Meghji


New York is a big city, and the sheer size of it can be overwhelming for anyone. Now imagine what it feels like if you are a little person.

Jonathan Novick, 22, has achondroplasia, the most common form of dwarfism.

Sharing a definition of dwarfism, Novick says it is "the abnormal underdevelopment of the body characterized predominantly by extreme shortness of stature." He adds, "The term is dwarf or little person, one or the other is totally fine — just not midget … not only is that incorrect, but it’s incredibly offensive."

Novick came to New York City about a year ago. He made a short film about his experience and posted it to YouTube on Aug. 7. In less than a week, it’s racked up more than 69,000 views.

He wanted to share this video so that instead of telling people about his condition and his life, he could start showing them.

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Why We Didn’t Change Our Adopted Child’s Name

"I think this can apply to all of our internationally adopted kids. We kept the names of our children incorporated into their full names. Great article and thank you Erin!"


By Erin

valentine Whether to change an adopted child’s name is always a hot topic for adopters and adoptees. Some people are passionately for it, others passionately against it, and most somewhere in the middle. Over the years we have received many comments about our daughter’s name. Questions on how to pronounce her name… questions on how to spell her name… and before her adoption, questions on if we were going to change her name.

At this point I can’t imagine ever considering anything else. She IS Nariya. It suits her. But there was a point in the very beginning that we considered changing it.

I almost hate to say this now, but it’s the truth so here it is: I considered changing my daughter’s name because I was worried it sounded too black.

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Spending Money on Even One Adoption is Great for the World


By Katie Jay

2014-07-20-17.42.10-1024x768 There is a type of comment I regularly get on this blog from the anti-adoption nuts:

“The money you are spending to bring just one child out of her country could be used to build a clinic or school, fund a doctor, public health nurse, or teacher for a year, to improve the lives of everyone in the village. How is taking one child benefitting the thousands left behind?”

The question is whether adoptive families—who are a tiny, insignificant percentage of players in the global orphan crisis—who spend $30K for our adoption costs would be better to contribute to charities instead. Which begs the question: Would the world be a better place overall with that approach, even though the children who would have been adopted would die?

The answer is no. It’s not even a debate. Here’s why.

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