The Scariest Special Need of All—Would You Adopt This Child?

Source: https://creatingafamily.org

By Dawn Davenport

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In my experience there is one special need that scares prospective adoptive parents the most. The one where even parents who have a wide range of acceptance for special needs will often say “no”. The special need that is preventing thousands of children from being adopted. That special need is being the victim of sexual abuse. Yes, that special need is actually being the victim of abuse!

Through no fault of their own these children have been sexually abused and are now being victimized again by the near universal fear of raising a child that has been sexually abused. Irony anyone?

I have been told by countless social worker that if the child has a record of sexual abuse in their file or a record of showing the symptoms of having been sexually abused, the chances of finding an adoptive family becomes infinitely harder. This breaks my heart.

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Realistic Expectations The First Year Home

Congratulations! Welcome to the journey of being an adoptive parent. As you get to know your child, you will realize what you don’t know! But not to worry, you aren’t alone. Take time to learn the skills to parent YOUR child. Connect with others who have similar experiences. Make time for yourself. The following articles were complied as a great starting point for your education as a new adoptive parent

  • A Different Perspective By Cynthia Hockman-Chupp
  • Strategies for Building Attachment By Karleen Gribble, BRurSc, PhD,
  • Top Ten Tips for Successful First Year Parenting By Deborah Gray, MSW, MPA
  • Why Grandma Can’t Pick Up the Baby By Sheena Macrae and Karleen Gribble
  • What is This Thing You Call Sleep? By Dr Julian Davies, MD
  • Transitional Feeding Difficulties By Dr Julian Davies, MD
  • Alone No More…Recognizing Post Adoption Depression By Heatherly Bucher
  • Adding The Oldest By Terra Trevor
  • Creating a Fit By Carrie Kitze
  • “When Do You Tell a Child he was Adopted?” And Other Secrets We Shouldn’t Keep By Adam Pertman
  • Unexpected Special Needs By Nancy Hemenway
  • Positive Outcome: How Can You Combat the Effects of an Orphanage  By Mary Beth Williams, PhD, LCSW, CTS
  • The Impact of Trauma on the Adopted Child By B. Bryan Post
  • Ten Keys to Healing Trauma in the Adopted Child By B. Bryan Post
  • How to Find a Therapist Experienced in Attachment and/or Trauma tips from the Attachment & Trauma Network
  • Sensory Integration And the Internationally Adopted Child By Barbara Elleman, MHS, OTR/L, BCP
  • Facts About Parenting a Child with Fetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder By Teressa Kellerman
  • How to Avoid the Syndrome of Parent Burn-Out by Harriet McCarthy
  • Being an Ally to Families Raising Children with Challenges By Ellin Frank
  • Help Your Child Ward Off a Mad Attack by Lynne Namke, EdD
  • Being with Your Child in Public Places by Patty Wipfler
  • Strategies to Deal with Anger and Power Struggles By Christopher J. Alexander, PhD
  • When Adoptions Fail By Kim Phagan-Hansel

NEW WEBINAR: Expectations vs. Realities: Parenting an Adopted Child with Special Needs

807Thursday, January 17, 2013
7:00PM – 8:00PM  Central Time
Q&A: 8:00PM

Is your child emotionally acting much younger than their age?  Have special needs you weren’t expecting? Behaviors that resemble ADHD?

You are not alone.  These challenges are common for post- institutionalized children. Finding help, however, can be difficult.

Join us for a webinar featuring Martha Osborne, adopted person, adoptive mom and  founder of the largest special needs adoption advocacy website, RainbowKids.com. Martha will lead an “in the trenches” discussion on how parents can get connected and supported.

Learn how to build a plan to manage undiagnosed special needs. Consider new, outside the box suggestions on how to address unexpected cognitive and emotional delays. Understand how proactive parenting can help!

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New Webinar! Expectations and Realities: Parenting an Adopted Child with Special Needs

807Thursday, January 17, 2013 
7:00PM – 8:00PM 
Central Time
Q&A: 8:00PM

We need your input!  If you are the adoptive parent of a special needs child, let us know the biggest difference between what you expected and what you are experiencing

Then, join us for a webinar to discuss what you told us!

Guest Speaker: Martha Osborne, founder of RainbowKids.com, adopted person and adoptive mom.

Martha will discuss YOUR top 3 disconnects between the expectations and realities of raising a child with special needs. 

She will also give examples of how families have handled these differences and resources to help. Click here to let us know what you’d like Martha to discuss.

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Food For Thought: The Impact of Poor Nutrition in Early Development

Dr. Dana Johnson, renowned international adoption physician, shares the results of his research on the common physical, cognitive and behavioral impacts of poor nutrition on internationally adopted children.

Take Food For Thought for only $10!

An opportunity to learn with SPOON: Upcoming Classes

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, December 6, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

When adopting a child who has been identified as having a special need, there is more to consider than just the medical or behavioral diagnosis. One of the basic, foundational issues that must be addressed immediately is the child’s feeding and nutrition, which will almost certainly be more of a challange than for a child without an identified need.

The goal of this presentation is to offer parents an overview of the aspects of feeding and nutrition that are unique to children with special needs including those with Sensory Processing Disorder, low muscle tone, cerebral palsy, and cleft lip and palate

Learn More & Register…

An opportunity to learn with SPOON: Upcoming Classes

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, December 6, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

When adopting a child who has been identified as having a special need, there is more to consider than just the medical or behavioral diagnosis. One of the basic, foundational issues that must be addressed immediately is the child’s feeding and nutrition, which will almost certainly be more of a challange than for a child without an identified need.

The goal of this presentation is to offer parents an overview of the aspects of feeding and nutrition that are unique to children with special needs including those with Sensory Processing Disorder, low muscle tone, cerebral palsy, and cleft lip and palate

Learn More & Register…

An opportunity to learn with SPOON: Upcoming Classes

Nourish, Nurture, Attach: The feeding relationship and adoption

Nourish, Nurture, Attach: The feeding relationship and adoption – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, November 8, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

Even parents with thriving biological children get frazzled when their kids refuse to eat or limit their diet to a few select foods. This frustration is compounded for adoptive parents who have the additional pressure of getting their children nutritionally “caught up.” Unfortunately it is not uncommon for children who are entering a new family through adoption or foster care to have difficulty eating, develop rigid eating patterns, or refuse food all together (a.k.a. food aversion). On the other end of the spectrum, it is also not uncommon for post-adopted children to hoard food in the initial period home.

The goal of this presentation is to provide parents with practical, research-based information on ending the power struggles and restoring a positive feeding relationship that promotes attachment, trust, good nutrition and healthy weight.

Learn More & Register…

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, December 6, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

When adopting a child who has been identified as having a special need, there is more to consider than just the medical or behavioral diagnosis. One of the basic, foundational issues that must be addressed immediately is the child’s feeding and nutrition, which will almost certainly be more of a challange than for a child without an identified need.

The goal of this presentation is to offer parents an overview of the aspects of feeding and nutrition that are unique to children with special needs including those with Sensory Processing Disorder, low muscle tone, cerebral palsy, and cleft lip and palate

Learn More & Register…

An opportunity to learn with SPOON: Upcoming Classes

Nourish, Nurture, Attach: The feeding relationship and adoption

Nourish, Nurture, Attach: The feeding relationship and adoption – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, November 8, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

Even parents with thriving biological children get frazzled when their kids refuse to eat or limit their diet to a few select foods. This frustration is compounded for adoptive parents who have the additional pressure of getting their children nutritionally “caught up.” Unfortunately it is not uncommon for children who are entering a new family through adoption or foster care to have difficulty eating, develop rigid eating patterns, or refuse food all together (a.k.a. food aversion). On the other end of the spectrum, it is also not uncommon for post-adopted children to hoard food in the initial period home.

The goal of this presentation is to provide parents with practical, research-based information on ending the power struggles and restoring a positive feeding relationship that promotes attachment, trust, good nutrition and healthy weight.

Learn More & Register…

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, December 6, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

When adopting a child who has been identified as having a special need, there is more to consider than just the medical or behavioral diagnosis. One of the basic, foundational issues that must be addressed immediately is the child’s feeding and nutrition, which will almost certainly be more of a challange than for a child without an identified need.

The goal of this presentation is to offer parents an overview of the aspects of feeding and nutrition that are unique to children with special needs including those with Sensory Processing Disorder, low muscle tone, cerebral palsy, and cleft lip and palate

Learn More & Register…

An opportunity to learn with SPOON: Upcoming Classes

Nourish, Nurture, Attach: The feeding relationship and adoption

Nourish, Nurture, Attach: The feeding relationship and adoption – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, November 8, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

Even parents with thriving biological children get frazzled when their kids refuse to eat or limit their diet to a few select foods. This frustration is compounded for adoptive parents who have the additional pressure of getting their children nutritionally “caught up.” Unfortunately it is not uncommon for children who are entering a new family through adoption or foster care to have difficulty eating, develop rigid eating patterns, or refuse food all together (a.k.a. food aversion). On the other end of the spectrum, it is also not uncommon for post-adopted children to hoard food in the initial period home.

The goal of this presentation is to provide parents with practical, research-based information on ending the power struggles and restoring a positive feeding relationship that promotes attachment, trust, good nutrition and healthy weight.

Learn More & Register…

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview

Feeding and Nutrition Considerations for Children with Special Needs: An overview – Live Webinar

Event Date: Thursday, December 6, 2012 | Noon – 1:00 p.m. (Central Time)

Intended Audience: Prospective Adoptive Parents, Adoptive Parents, Child Welfare Professionals

Fee: $15 per participant; separate registration required for each participant.

When adopting a child who has been identified as having a special need, there is more to consider than just the medical or behavioral diagnosis. One of the basic, foundational issues that must be addressed immediately is the child’s feeding and nutrition, which will almost certainly be more of a challange than for a child without an identified need.

The goal of this presentation is to offer parents an overview of the aspects of feeding and nutrition that are unique to children with special needs including those with Sensory Processing Disorder, low muscle tone, cerebral palsy, and cleft lip and palate

Learn More & Register…

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