Why Pre-Adoption Education Is Imperative When Preparing to Parent a Child Through Adoption.

Acknowledging the child’s grief, sitting with them in their pain and walking the journey to attachment together, cannot be stressed enough as necessary to successfully attach.

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Four Myths We Used To Believe About The Effects of Childhood Trauma

Source: https://www.acesconnection.com/

By Anne Runkle

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Everyone knows that trauma in childhood can cause problems later in life, but until recently, we totally misunderstood how this happens.

Here are four myths that have dominated our understanding of Childhood PTSD, and convoluted our approach to treatment:

Myth 1: Childhood PTSD is a psychological wound.

What we know now: We now know that the damage from early abuse, neglect and chronic stress is largely neurological — in other words, it causes brain and nervous system changes. These changes, in turn, can cause cognitive impairment, emotional  and social problems and chronic disease. Though much of the damage can be reversed, it’s important to be aware of how these events can have such a broad impact on every part of our lives. 

Myth 2: The best thing for people who were traumatized is to talk about it.

What we know now: Focusing on your childhood traumas will not, by itself, produce recovery. While taking stock of what happened is a useful first step, putting attention on bad things can actually re-traumatize you, and in the re-traumatized state, it can be impossible to reason, remember or integrate information. This is one of the main reasons that talk therapy doesn’t always work very well for trauma, and why other methods of recovery are necessary. Focusing on childhood can also emphasize blame, which ultimately keeps you trapped.

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW Presents: Race & Development- Next Webinar with Guest Presenter!

Melanie Chung Sherman, LCSW, a guest presenter will bring an important topic that falls outside of Robyn Gobbel’s area of expertise! 

Building Trust by Addressing the Hard Stuff: Race & Development

Working with children who have experience complex trauma, toxic stress, and/or adoption often means working with children of color.  Melanie Chung Sherman, LCSW will help us tackle this tough topic so we can better support children who experience the toxic stress of racism.

Melanie has expertise in adoption, attachment, and complex trauma.  She’s an excellent presenter and obviously in an hour webinar she will only be able to gloss over the tip of the iceberg.  Nonetheless, this will be an important webinar for everyone:

  • Parenting a child of color
  • Working with children of color (teacher, social worker, case worker, CASA, therapist, Sunday School Teacher, etc.)
  • Feeling uncertain or uncomfortable about how to address the impact of race and racial awareness

As always, webinars are only $14 and you do not have to attend live.  Everyone who registers will receive lifetime and unlimited access to the recordings. You must register by the evening of Wednesday September 12.

All the details and registration is available on this website, so CLICK HERE!

FREE Webinar with 1.5 CEU for Understanding ACEs Tuesday February 27th 8:00pm eastern

Childhood experiences, both good and bad, shape the developing brain and have a major impact on the physical, mental health and the social emotional functioning of adults. Poor childhood experiences such as childhood neglect, physical and sexual abuse or incarceration of caregivers are called Adverse Childhood Experiences or ACEs.

Join Harmony Family Center’s Education and Training Coordinator, Allison Cooke Douglas, for an overview of the science of ACEs, how these experience impact children and what parents and professionals can do to help children grow and heal after adversity.

Follow this link to register!

Certificates for 1.5 hours of training will be issued for qualified participants.

PLEASE NOTE: Couples using the same device to watch the webinar must register both participants on the registration form (one person in the first name space and the second in the last name space) to receive separate certificates. 

International Adoption Clinic – LIVE Seminar Registration – March 3rd

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Grief in Adopted Children- One hour left to register!

It’s not too late to register!!!

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Grief in Adopted Children– The Webinar airs tonight at 7pm central time and there is STILL time to register. 

Can’t make it tonight?  Too much craziness going on at your house during those evening witching hours?  I get it!  Everyone who registers will receive the recording that you can access whenever, wherever, and forever!!!!

Grief is inevitable.  You are going to have to face it with your children.  I can help!!!

We can do hard things together.

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Host the Empowered To Connect Conference Simulcast at Your Church!

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Host a Simulcast at Your Church

The Empowered to Connect Conference can now be broadcast at churches across the country. Parents everywhere can have access to these practical tools that help bring hope and healing to any child who has experienced trauma or the loss of parental care.

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The Scariest Special Need of All—Would You Adopt This Child?

Source: https://creatingafamily.org

By Dawn Davenport

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In my experience there is one special need that scares prospective adoptive parents the most. The one where even parents who have a wide range of acceptance for special needs will often say “no”. The special need that is preventing thousands of children from being adopted. That special need is being the victim of sexual abuse. Yes, that special need is actually being the victim of abuse!

Through no fault of their own these children have been sexually abused and are now being victimized again by the near universal fear of raising a child that has been sexually abused. Irony anyone?

I have been told by countless social worker that if the child has a record of sexual abuse in their file or a record of showing the symptoms of having been sexually abused, the chances of finding an adoptive family becomes infinitely harder. This breaks my heart.

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3 Reasons Traditional Parenting Doesn’t Work with Kids from Trauma by Mike Berry

Source: http://www.rainbowkids.com

The following article was graciously shared, with permission, by Mike Berry from the blog Confessions of an Adoptive Parent.

feat_smIf you’ve parented a child from a traumatic past for any length of time, you already know that traditional parenting techniques do not work. But, have you ever stopped to consider why, or what you could do differently?

Kristin and I both grew up in traditional households, with parents who used traditional techniques in raising us both. There were rules and restrictions, guidelines and boundaries. And if said rules, restrictions, guidelines and boundaries were crossed, BAM, consequences were enforced. No questions asked. From all accounts, these techniques worked. We both grew up to be responsible adults who knew the difference between right and wrong. But, we also never endured significant trauma as children.

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Post Adoption Depression: Causes and Prevention

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Post adoption depression and parent attachment disorder are surprisingly common and seldom talked about. After all, since you’ve tried so hard to become a parent, many adoptive parents are ashamed to admit that they are struggling.

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