“Ruby Finds A Worry” by Tom Percival: A Read Aloud Story For Your Family!

A big thank you to our friends @guilfordnonprofitconsortium for sharing this perfect video from @kellinfoundation at just the right time when our kids could use a message like this the most, “Ruby Finds A Worry.”

Grab the kids and take a seat together, talk about how your own family is managing the changes and the inevitable worries all of us are experiencing, young and old alike.  We would love to hear your ideas, too!

How Trauma Affects Kids in School

by Caroline Miller

Ongoing exposure to neglect, abuse, homelessness or violence causes learning and behavior problems in children. Signs of trauma and tips for helping kids who’ve been traumatized.

We tend to think of trauma as the result of a frightening and upsetting event. But many children experience trauma through ongoing exposure, throughout their early development, to abuse, neglect, homelessness, domestic violence or violence in their communities. And it’s clear that chronic trauma can cause serious problems with learning and behavior.

Trauma is particularly challenging for educators to address because kids often don’t express the distress they’re feeling in a way that’s easily recognizable — and they may mask their pain with behavior that’s aggressive or off-putting. As Nancy Rappaport, a child and adolescent psychiatrist who focuses on mental health issues in schools, puts it, “They are masters at making sure you do not see them bleed.”

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Parenting Children Who Have Experienced Trauma

How can we parent our children who have experienced trauma. How can we discipline them in a way that will help them learn and grow. We talk with Karen Doyle Buckwalter, a clinical social worker specializing in attachment and trauma, and author of Raising the Challenging Child: How to Minimize Meltdowns, Reduce Conflict, and Increase Cooperation.

Listen to the podcast.

Times of Israel: When nobody knows your sorrow: On parenting a child with mental illness.

When nobody knows your sorrow: On parenting a child with mental illness: “Parenting a child with mental illness stretches and twists and tears you in ways others can’t begin to understand” reprinted from Times of Israel on NOV 26, 2017.

FREE Webinar to Increase Your Child’s Self-Regulation Skills! Learn How on 4/30

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Harmony Family Center’s free April webinar, I Feel Angry in My Tummy: Increasing Self-Regulation in Traumatized Children will be held on:

Tuesday April 30th from 8:30-9:30 pm, EST

You can register by following this link!

"Just as a thermostat can break, if it gets overused, this too can happen to a child’s ‘brain thermostat’ when there is too much stress. The thermostat or ability to self-regulate, simply gets overwhelmed." –Dr. Stuart Shankar

Join Harmony Family Center’s Education and Training Coordinator, Allison Cooke Douglas, for a deeper look at self-regulation in children with trauma histories.  We will discover what self-regulation truly means, how a child’s history impacts these skills, the relationship between self-regulation and behavior and how committed adults can assist kids in building these vital skills.

What You Need To Know About The Physical Impact From Trauma

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Why Pre-Adoption Education Is Imperative When Preparing to Parent a Child Through Adoption.

Acknowledging the child’s grief, sitting with them in their pain and walking the journey to attachment together, cannot be stressed enough as necessary to successfully attach.

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Four Myths We Used To Believe About The Effects of Childhood Trauma

Source: https://www.acesconnection.com/

By Anne Runkle

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Everyone knows that trauma in childhood can cause problems later in life, but until recently, we totally misunderstood how this happens.

Here are four myths that have dominated our understanding of Childhood PTSD, and convoluted our approach to treatment:

Myth 1: Childhood PTSD is a psychological wound.

What we know now: We now know that the damage from early abuse, neglect and chronic stress is largely neurological — in other words, it causes brain and nervous system changes. These changes, in turn, can cause cognitive impairment, emotional  and social problems and chronic disease. Though much of the damage can be reversed, it’s important to be aware of how these events can have such a broad impact on every part of our lives. 

Myth 2: The best thing for people who were traumatized is to talk about it.

What we know now: Focusing on your childhood traumas will not, by itself, produce recovery. While taking stock of what happened is a useful first step, putting attention on bad things can actually re-traumatize you, and in the re-traumatized state, it can be impossible to reason, remember or integrate information. This is one of the main reasons that talk therapy doesn’t always work very well for trauma, and why other methods of recovery are necessary. Focusing on childhood can also emphasize blame, which ultimately keeps you trapped.

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Robyn Gobbel, LCSW Presents: Race & Development- Next Webinar with Guest Presenter!

Melanie Chung Sherman, LCSW, a guest presenter will bring an important topic that falls outside of Robyn Gobbel’s area of expertise! 

Building Trust by Addressing the Hard Stuff: Race & Development

Working with children who have experience complex trauma, toxic stress, and/or adoption often means working with children of color.  Melanie Chung Sherman, LCSW will help us tackle this tough topic so we can better support children who experience the toxic stress of racism.

Melanie has expertise in adoption, attachment, and complex trauma.  She’s an excellent presenter and obviously in an hour webinar she will only be able to gloss over the tip of the iceberg.  Nonetheless, this will be an important webinar for everyone:

  • Parenting a child of color
  • Working with children of color (teacher, social worker, case worker, CASA, therapist, Sunday School Teacher, etc.)
  • Feeling uncertain or uncomfortable about how to address the impact of race and racial awareness

As always, webinars are only $14 and you do not have to attend live.  Everyone who registers will receive lifetime and unlimited access to the recordings. You must register by the evening of Wednesday September 12.

All the details and registration is available on this website, so CLICK HERE!

FREE Webinar with 1.5 CEU for Understanding ACEs Tuesday February 27th 8:00pm eastern

Childhood experiences, both good and bad, shape the developing brain and have a major impact on the physical, mental health and the social emotional functioning of adults. Poor childhood experiences such as childhood neglect, physical and sexual abuse or incarceration of caregivers are called Adverse Childhood Experiences or ACEs.

Join Harmony Family Center’s Education and Training Coordinator, Allison Cooke Douglas, for an overview of the science of ACEs, how these experience impact children and what parents and professionals can do to help children grow and heal after adversity.

Follow this link to register!

Certificates for 1.5 hours of training will be issued for qualified participants.

PLEASE NOTE: Couples using the same device to watch the webinar must register both participants on the registration form (one person in the first name space and the second in the last name space) to receive separate certificates. 

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