Are Time-Outs Helpful or Harmful to Young Children? by Claire Lerner

Source: www.zerotothree.org

Jan 14, 2016

By Claire Lerner

a3d2d602-8b32-4234-9117-fa5388f2a80f-smallWhat’s a parent to do when one of the most commonly used tools for discipline is called into question?

A number of recent articles in popular media that denounce the use of time-outs have sent many parents, understandably, into a tailspin. Critics believe that instead of helping children calm down, time-outs have the opposite effect—causing children to become even more distressed and “dysregulated,” or out of control. Further, children can become so overwhelmed by the disruption in their relationship with their parent during time-out (and by the shame they feel for being “bad”) that their emotional upset increases and their likelihood of learning from the experience decreases. But all of these negative outcomes assume that time-out is approached with anger, shaming, and harshness by the parent. When implemented this way—as punishment—time-out can no doubt be detrimental to the child.

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Taking a Look at "Time Out" as a Means of Discipline

Source: https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/time-out-vs-alternative-discipline-102640979912.html

By Jennifer O’Neill34fb7868143c775898a1b49bf865ca1e725f329c
Photo by Michele Princigalli/Getty Images

Interesting article on discipline and how social scientists and parents view "Time-Out".  I would have loved to see an additional piece included on "Time-In" for those of us with kids experiencing attachment disorder.  Most families with children from institutional care or any traumatic beginning would better benefit from "Time-In".  How did this article make you feel about your own parenting and discipline style?

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